OTHERS

6 Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

Spina Bifida (SB)

Danny & Meetra

Tip #1: You are NOT your disability

Every day, thousands of millions of people around the world will try telling you what you can and can't do based on your disability. If you succumbed to those presumptions, where will that get you in life? We were always told by only our families of all that we could achieve, but when we went out into the world, we were met with all the "you can't", "you won't", "don't even try" and the list goes on and on. We've both outgrown these assumptions and want to help inspire others to not live by these accusations that seemingly "define" us. We define ourselves, YOU define your future, your life and how you see yourself. NEVER settle for anything less than greatness, because that is what you deserve. You are strong!!

Tip #2: Don't live your life according to others

Follow your dreams, reach for the stars and never quit. Nothing is ever too far out of reach for you to obtain if you put your mind to it. If you want something, go get it. If you want to get stronger, start today. Only when you begin to make a change will you see change. Others may have expectations or lack of for your life based on your disabilities, however, why hold yourself back? If at first you don't succeed, try again. But nothing great has ever come from not trying. Believe us, we've tried and failed many many times, but have always gotten right back up. Prove the world wrong and you will thrive!

Tip #3: Be kind to yourself

We don't all have great days. Maybe today you didn't work out, you fell, maybe you had an extra treat just because. Or, maybe you saw yourself in the mirror and quickly your mind began racing to negativity. Shift your thoughts and soon you'll start to see a whole new you. Don't beat yourself up from the mistakes, that's life. We are supposed to make mistakes, because from them, come some of the greatest adventures you may have.

Tip #4: Travel

No disability should keep you grounded! Make time to travel and experience new aspects of the beautiful world we live in! We know this all too well. When Danny and I first met, we both were to take our first solo flights to each others continents (USA and Brazil). Yes, we were both terrified of being alone and not knowing what to expect, but that is the thrill of growing up. When traveling solo and with a disability, you can get assistance to each terminal to ensure you make it on time(even with language barriers...hello Google translate!). Where there's a will, there's always a way. NEVER settle.

Tip #5: Never be too serious

The topic around disabilities always seems to be such a serious topic. When mentioned, often times we'll hear, "oh I'm so sorry, will you have that forever?" or "I hope you get better soon" as if it's a disease that can just go away. Please, for your own well being, brush this off. NEVER let the bullies from school or unknowledgable people in the world needing to make comments to you without asking questions affect you and your greatness. We are all here for a purpose and no one should ever stop you from finding you just because you are unique. If we had let our bullies win, we may not be here today, we may not have gotten the chance to share our story and help others not feel alone.

Tip #6: Challenge yourself

Do something every day that may frighten you, test your limits and your potentials. We challenge you to overcome your fears and live your life to your fullest potential that everyone deserves. Take that leap of faith out of your comfort zone, even if it's something simple as adding someone new on IG, or Facebook that you've been inspired by. I did, and here we are almost 2 years later, in Brazil for 2 months all while having Spina Bifida! If we can do it, so can you!

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